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Esmae for now's avatar

thank you so much for this, I'm often in the initiator and closer position and it's frustrating! one way I've seen people excuse their lack of IRL social participation is by saying that they're introverted, as though introverts don't also need social interaction. it makes me sad for sure. I'm saving this post to share with friends as needed!

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Kaleberg's avatar

I remember this falling apart in the late 1980s and early 1990s. People were BUSY. People hated to commit. As the years progressed, it got harder and harder to get together, and lord knows we tried. It wasn't children. It wasn't the internet or cell phones. It was an attitude that being friends with someone didn't necessarily involve spending any time with them.

We once invited a couple to our place for dinner. They came a couple of times. Then, we never heard from them again. Years later, another friend of hours said that they had asked him what had happened. Why hadn't we called them again. I remember saying something polite, but I kept thinking that they had our phone number, they were moderately intelligent people, why hand't they simply called us? I was raised by wolves, but I understand this. I have no idea of what they were raised by.

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